In light of the negative attention that last week's basketball game received, and in honor of Gabe turning 10-years-old this week, I thought I would relive this great memory from football season 2014.
I am not so naive as to think that this is how athletic competitions should end all the time, that it never matters if you win or lose, and that we just need to make everyone feel good. But I sure am glad that this select group of people on this one particular day came together to make Gabe's day, and in the process, left smiles on the faces of millions of people around the world. The video shows Gabe (a then 8-year-old, being guided by his older brother, Owen (who was also on the court during the stall game last week) and then chased down by a great group of opposing players (from Mosinee) who just make this the best high school touchdown ever.
Happy Birthday Gabe!!
(I wish I could get the NFL video with commentator breakdown to show up as a full video, but I can't, so here is the link to their piece:
http://www.nfl.com/videos/nfl-videos/0ap3000000415609/8-year-old-scores-inspirational-touchdown)
Or, you can see the original footage here:
SAL-VA-TION: by grace
E-LEV-EN: children from 1984 to 2006
HOME-SCHOOL-ING: since 1990
DOWN-SYN-DROME: susie and gabe
GRAND-CHILD-REN: since 2010
FAITH-FUL-NESS: my steadfast rock, my biggest supporter, my leader, my friend, my love, my husband
E-LEV-EN: children from 1984 to 2006
HOME-SCHOOL-ING: since 1990
DOWN-SYN-DROME: susie and gabe
GRAND-CHILD-REN: since 2010
FAITH-FUL-NESS: my steadfast rock, my biggest supporter, my leader, my friend, my love, my husband
Friday, March 11, 2016
Saturday, March 5, 2016
Basketball or "Stall Ball"?
March 5, 2016
To: Wisconsin State
Basketball Coaches and the WIAA
Re: Basketball or “Stall
Ball”?
Dear Coaches and Board Members,
I sat through a painful 36-minute “stall ball” game last
night. Even before the end of the
blisteringly boring excuse for a game (and while we led by 4 points) I was
drafting this letter in my head. The
nauseated feeling that began in the first five minutes of play never went
away. For me, this isn’t about winning
and losing. For the coaches, apparently,
that is all it is about.
As for basketball, I am not new to the game. I played high school basketball in MN, played
on a European women’s team while I was an exchange student, and played one year
of division 2 college basketball before transferring to a division 1 school
where I knew I could not (and did not care to try to) compete. I stayed involved in athletics by officiating
intramural games; and I married an athlete who played high school football,
basketball, and baseball and has officiated at upper levels of competition. We have eleven children; and, our ninth child
and seventh son is a now high school athlete.
I have been watching my kids play baseball, soccer, softball, football,
and basketball for twenty-two years. Besides
all of the regular season games, I’ve watched them play in all-star games, AAU
games, state east-west games,a MN-WI border battle, state tournaments, college
football games, and college basketball games.
I estimate that I have sat through at least 1600 games.
In twenty-two years and 1600+ games I have seen only ONE team end the season with a
win. Only ONE team made it to the final championship game and took home the
trophy. That’s only one in almost 200
teams’ seasons, less than 0.5% success. Learn
a lesson coaches, it isn’t just about winning.
If it is, you are a collective group of ultimate failures.
I haven’t encouraged my kids to play sports so they can “win”. I’ve encouraged them to play because they
enjoy it and to learn very valuable life lessons. I believe kids should walk away from an
athletic experience knowing more about hard work, cooperation, teamwork,
handling pressure, submitting to leadership, letting others down, and knowing
how to deal with those who’ve let them down.
I believe they should learn the benefits of dedication, giving it
everything they have, improving their work ethic, and doing all they can as a
team to do to those things together. I
believe these lessons take them into job situations, marriages, families, and
community positions better equipped to be leaders.
I want my kids to be leaders, but not without integrity. Leadership without integrity is what most
people call “politics”. What we all
despise about “politics” is the blatant maneuvering to position oneself for
personal gain and victory. We link it
with a lack of integrity.
That’s what I feel is happening with high school basketball. We were witness to this kind of basketball three times this season. Sitting and watching a team hold the ball for
7 straight minutes is not a game. Watching
a team dribble in circles and pass for minutes on end, waiting to draw a foul,
is frustratingly pointless for players and fans alike. But the fact that it’s frustrating for the
fans is not a reason to change strategies.
Three real reasons to stop engaging in the “stall ball” stategy are: 1) it violates the integrity of the game, 2) it undermines real sportmanship, and 3) the reason for competing in a team sport in
the first place is seriously violated by such behavior. This kind of basketball is the making of a
sports blooper segment, not an athletic event.
Coaches, when it comes to your “stall ball”, even the
players hate it. They want to play. They joined the team because they like to
play. I hear first hand what is said by
our team’s players and by the opposition. They hate it.
We’ve taught them too well to respect authority and do what you tell
them to do. They do it because you make
them do it; but, THEY HATE IT. Ask them,
I’m sure you’ll find that the vast majority don’t mind losing as much as they mind not
playing.
As a parent, one of the most frustrating things I’ve had to
do is create what seem like obvious rules.
(I’m guessing that the WIAA committees feel the same way.) I wrongly thought
that basic, overriding principles of life would be enough to direct my
children. Then they got old enough to
bend the rules, push the boundaries, and come to me saying, “But you didn’t say
not to…” And so the need for specific
rules and precise language arose. I
would prefer that my kids exercise personal discretion and integrity to do what
is right. As much as possible, I still
challenge them to make mature and honest choices without a defined list of
rules. When it comes to basketball we’ve
had sons share with us how, in games, they tried to ‘get into players heads’ to
mess them up, “accidentally” tap a ball away before inbounding to take time off
the clock, or quietly taunt someone to anger them and get them to retaliate and
foul. We have heartily denounced those behaviors. Whether they’re legal or just something they
can get away with doesn’t matter, it’s bad sportsmanship and lacks integrity.
We want this generation to grow up and make society better,
not more self-serving. While “stall ball”
is within the rules of Wisconsin high school basketball, everyone who has had
to pay $4, maybe drive 1-2 hours (or more) and then sit through what doesn’t
even resemble the game that drives the kids to want to play in the first place,
knows first hand that the integrity of the game, and high school athletcs, has
been violated.
It’s true, “No one said you can’t do that.” But they should.
Shame on all of you. (After some consideration, I feel that this was in inappropriate comment. I apologize.)
Sincerely,
Cindy White
Added Note:
Please understand, this is not simply about one game, one team, or one coach. I wrote most of this letter a month ago following another frustrating stall ball game. I wish we had stalled and lost so that you would know this is not sour grapes!
Here is an excerpt from a comment that may help express the purpose of this letter:
The debate about this is not new, a shot clock was first implemented in professional basketball in 1954 and the NCAA came on board in the mid 1980s. Everyone understands that 36 minutes of stalling is not basketball. The high schools have been reluctant to go to the shot clock because of the costs, training, and management and because it could potentially hurt younger players who need more time to implement the basic fundamentals of the game.
The National Federation of High School Association, on its website states, "Currently, Massachusetts, Maryland, Rhode Island, Washington, New York, California, North Dakota and South Dakota utilize the shot clock for either boys or girls or both. Since there currently is no allowance for a shot clock under NFHS rules, these states forfeit opportunity for service on the Basketball Rules Committee."
Unless the NFHS changes the rules, I believe its time for Wisconsin to join those eight states and use the shot clock. You can have your 1980s basketball. I"m ready to move forward.
Added Note:
Please understand, this is not simply about one game, one team, or one coach. I wrote most of this letter a month ago following another frustrating stall ball game. I wish we had stalled and lost so that you would know this is not sour grapes!
Here is an excerpt from a comment that may help express the purpose of this letter:
The debate about this is not new, a shot clock was first implemented in professional basketball in 1954 and the NCAA came on board in the mid 1980s. Everyone understands that 36 minutes of stalling is not basketball. The high schools have been reluctant to go to the shot clock because of the costs, training, and management and because it could potentially hurt younger players who need more time to implement the basic fundamentals of the game.
The National Federation of High School Association, on its website states, "Currently, Massachusetts, Maryland, Rhode Island, Washington, New York, California, North Dakota and South Dakota utilize the shot clock for either boys or girls or both. Since there currently is no allowance for a shot clock under NFHS rules, these states forfeit opportunity for service on the Basketball Rules Committee."
Unless the NFHS changes the rules, I believe its time for Wisconsin to join those eight states and use the shot clock. You can have your 1980s basketball. I"m ready to move forward.
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