Friday, August 14, 2009
I can be biased, she's my daughter. And this takes nothing away from my other bride-to-be-girls (I think they would vie pretty heavily for the title--but, because I wasn't the mother I didn't see all of what I see this time).
Best Bride, Here's Why
Three weeks following her engagement she left for Guyana. She chose her date and attendants and then ALL other wedding plans were postponed until her return so she could give her full attention to her work in Guyana and her growing relationship with Daniel.
Despite her dream of "her perfect wedding dress" she accepted a used wedding dress from a dear Guyanese friend. She set aside her "dream style" without hardly a thought and embraced the love of her friend and the practical aspect of a gorgeous and free dress. Besides, she is stunning in it!
She allowed me to make the other girls' dresses, saving virtually hundreds of dollars.
She told the girls to pick black sandals, whatever style works for them, because, "Who cares if you have matching feet?"
She kept Daniel involved in the plans because "it's OUR wedding".
When I asked if she wanted any decorations for the front of the church she said, "Not if we have to buy anything. WE'RE the decorations."
She accepted the available table decorations from the church where we're holding the reception and is choosing to donate the ones we will have to purchase for future weddings.
She's made a list and stuck to just doing the next most important thing.
When things have been missed, or details weren't to someone else's satisfaction, she's shrugged and said, "Yep, I missed that, there's nothing I can do to fix it, I hope people will understand," and went on.
And most importantly, her first priority has been to make time for Bible reading and praying alone and with Daniel. She hasn't set aside her relationship with him or with her Lord until "the dust from the wedding settles." They come first. An old married lady can take some tips from that attitude!
She understands that it's all about the marriage, not just the wedding.
Daniel is blessed and I will miss this girl.